Consider this hypothetical: You're on a promising first date with someone you're really into. The chemistry is off the charts, and she hasn't done anything mortifying or game-breaking, like cry about her ex, or subject you to a photo presentation of cute things her cat has done. In fact, things are going so well that you're actually getting kind of worried that it's going to be you who screws things up, ending your chance at a second date. Cut to the steamy make-out session that's oh so conveniently happening right outside her place, and the thought of asking to come in and seal the deal is obviously crossing your mind.
You went from zero to sexy in ten seconds. Here are some guidelines on how to navigate yourself and put the budding relationship back on track. You are not a slut. Have some compassion for yourself.
The goal is to give you a chance to evaluate the other person before hopping into bed. And is the third date really when most people start having sex anyway? What counts as going on a date anyway? For example, does it have to be one-on-one, or can going out with a group of friends count, too?
Gone are the days when men courted and wooed women, continuously seducing them with sexual offers. They knew well that women needed to feel loved to want sex, unlike their male counterparts that needed sex to feel loved. Love and trust had to be built before couples would consummate their relationship. We can feel nostalgic for the romance and courtship of bygone days but know well that those times are behind us. Welcome to the new world.